Perfect for Me

Many people have the following question: "When will I know if I met the perfect one for me?" Well, I'm going to attempt to answer that question!

I'm going to come up with something for you. A checklist of sorts. I'll put together some aspects of a relationship that will hint toward whether or not that relationship could be long lasting, so much to the point of bringing two people together for their lives. That being said, let's dive in.


Accepting the past.
We all have something that we are not proud of. How does your partner react to these things? A person who truly cares for you, and wants to spend plenty of time with you, will not fully accept flaws and issues that lie in your past. The same response lies with you. Do you feel comfortable with your partner's past? No, it isn't flawless, but do you trust your partner? Do you support him/her? These are good leading questions that could indicate how you feel about your partner's past.

A lifetime is a long time.
Many relationships are healthy and lively when two people see each other every once in a while, maybe a couple of times a week or so. How do you react when you're around your partner for a long time? Keep this in mind: If you get aggravated with your partner after spending only a few hours with him/her, imagine what it will be like to wake up next to that person for the rest of your life. If you're dreading this idea, chances are you aren't with the right person.

Know your partner.
It's difficult to know if two people are compatible if these two don't know each other well. Make sure you get to understand your partner. Let yourself view other sides of your partner's personality. Experience this person in many settings, including alone time, spending time with the family, partaking in activities in public, and when you two are celebrating. How your partner reacts to certain situations makes you aware of the person you may be spending your life with. Know your partner both emotionally and physically, to some extent, as you'll be around this person a lot!

No relationship is flawless.
 It takes two to tango, and one should expect to have issues in any relationship, no matter how well it may be going in the moment. What's more important is how you and your partner find a way to work through such problems. This is a good clue as to whether or not a relationship with a person could work. If your partner seems ready to jump ship at the smallest battle, be very wary. However, if your significant other decides to stay behind you during the most difficult arguments, it's a good sign. That's very telling as to how lasting that relationship can be. Analyze the bad times in the relationship. Are these bad times worth the good times? Do you still love your partner while that person may be arguing with or aggravating you? Spending your life with the person that is "perfect" for you doesn't mean you only look forward to the good times, but you must be ready for the bad times. You should be looking forward to those too, because you get to experience them with your partner.

These are four aspects of a relationship to think about when wondering if someone is perfect for you. However, don't aim to find the perfect person. Aim to create the perfect love. If this is your goal, the perfect person will turn up when the time is right.

Did this advice help you? If it did, please share! If you happen to have any situations or questions that need some insight, please contact me and let me know what it is that's on your mind. I'm here with answers and tips!

Happy Loving!

It Is Said That...

I have trouble with this quote. It seems to say that if you love, you die. That, I absolutely do not agree with. I'm not entirely sure how to rewrite, however. Perhaps, "If you love truly, you are reborn daily?"

Love is an incredible emotion, feeling, and connection between two people. It has the power to put a smile on someone's face even at the most depressing moment. It makes people feel complete and whole. It gives others the meaning to live. This is why it bothers me that something that is seen as so negative, death, is paired with love.

In fact, I'm going to go in the complete opposite direction and say this. If one loves, that person will never die. Well, how could that be? Actions done with love influence many people in a positive way, even if it is with the ripple effect, of affecting one person who affects another, so on and so forth. If one person loves, that person is held in the hearts of many many people, even through death. In this case, that person never dies, constantly living daily in the hearts of the ones who love him/her.

Death is not to be found in love. We are born in love, in many different ways. Some find completion in love, others find purpose, and some find themselves within it.

If you were to change this quote, how would you change it? How were you born in love? Leave your comments and thoughts!

Happy Loving.

Let Me Know!

Hello, Blogger folk! Matthew Johnson here. I like to consider myself a Romantologist. This does not mean that I study Romans! No, it means that I study love. I reflect on many situations about this crazy aspect of life, I try and make sense of some the confusing qualities of love, and I also like to give advice and tips to establish and create a healthy relationship that is meant to last!
I'm actually coming over here from another blog. I did not feel a part of the community over there and am considering moving my blog to Blogger. Would such a topic, the topic of love, interest you? If it would, comment as to what your thoughts are on this. I'm curious as to what you have to say!
Among aspects of love that I have reflected on in the past, I thought on showing appreciation, how dates are important in any relationship no matter how long it has been going on, and how to get over a past lover. There are many more ideas I have on other advice and tips! I also take other known love quotes and reflect on them. Each quote has something to be learned within it! With a passion for blogging on this topic, I hope I find a home here. Having a responsive audience to blog to will result in benefits for both you and me. Once this gets up and running, I will ask you for questions of love, and open a contact page where you can rant to me about love, ask for specific advice on situations, and find out a little bit more on something so wonderful and painful, sometimes at the same time.
Thank you for joining me on this journey! I look forward to hearing from you and can't wait until we get to know each other a bit more.

Let's explore love together