It Is Said That...

I have trouble with this quote. It seems to say that if you love, you die. That, I absolutely do not agree with. I'm not entirely sure how to rewrite, however. Perhaps, "If you love truly, you are reborn daily?"

Love is an incredible emotion, feeling, and connection between two people. It has the power to put a smile on someone's face even at the most depressing moment. It makes people feel complete and whole. It gives others the meaning to live. This is why it bothers me that something that is seen as so negative, death, is paired with love.

In fact, I'm going to go in the complete opposite direction and say this. If one loves, that person will never die. Well, how could that be? Actions done with love influence many people in a positive way, even if it is with the ripple effect, of affecting one person who affects another, so on and so forth. If one person loves, that person is held in the hearts of many many people, even through death. In this case, that person never dies, constantly living daily in the hearts of the ones who love him/her.

Death is not to be found in love. We are born in love, in many different ways. Some find completion in love, others find purpose, and some find themselves within it.

If you were to change this quote, how would you change it? How were you born in love? Leave your comments and thoughts!

Happy Loving.

Tom Robbins Says...

"We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love."

 I blame the media for this one. We are constantly bombarded with another's ideas of what love should be. We see perfection in books, in the movies, even in ads. What we need to keep in mind is that in these situations, we are only seeing half of the story. A movie could go through the lifetime of a couple, but that doesn't mean that we experience each and every day that this couple goes through. I guarantee there were hard days in that lifetime.

One will never find the "perfect" lover. After all, we are all human and we are all flawed in one way or another. Perhaps we don't look at ourselves the same way others do, but it doesn't change the fact that nobody is perfect. This doesn't mean, however, that there isn't someone in this world that is perfect for you. This is the perfect love that Robbins is talking about. It is important to look for and create the perfect love for you, not search for the flawless lover, driven by an image of perfection in your head. If you hold such lofty expectations in any relationship, it will never work out in your favor.

Nobody is perfect, yet the perfect love can be created

This perfect love will not be a person walking down the street. It will be someone that you dedicate yourself to, that you accept, for flaws and all. This is where creating the perfect love comes in. You find the person you want to create it with, then work through the tough times and enjoy the good times. Be there for each other, side by side and support one another through it all. Know that in times of need, the other person is there for you. Understand that the bad days are a part of even the best relationships. People may see it as a negative thing to go through some tough times as a couple. Don't let that hold you back. Every relationship will eventually have some problem or another. It is most important to communicate and get through these conflicts together. Only in this way could the perfect love be created.