It's finally starting to feel like Spring, which is symbolic to a new beginning. With that in mind, this topic goes out to the single people out there, ones who have recently experienced a difficult break-up.
I feel like we have all been in this position in life. We suffer a break-up and get caught in the past, wondering what went wrong and how one can fix it. It leads to depressing and lonely nights, putting a large damper on life as a whole. We all find ways to cope with it, but at times, those negative emotions just linger, waiting to drag us down. Here are some things to help you push past the pain.
Go out and find a hobby. It could be related to music, puzzles, video games, working out, anything that will occupy your mind. Once you put yourself into something you enjoy, you may find out something that is very interesting: While you're dedicated to your hobby, you aren't thinking about the pain of your loss. There is a high chance that your mind will go back to the pain you once felt, but the time away from those negative thoughts are healing.
Spend time with friends. There is a common misconception that one is lonely if he/she is not in a relationship, but this isn't true! Think of the friends and family around you. You may not have a romantic partner, but you have multiple emotional connections with others who can help you through life. Being around others will help in two manners. You will realize that you aren't alone and true friends will find a way to comfort you and make you smile. This is also very cathartic while dealing with pain.
This next component is mental and may seem easier than it truly is, but let your ex-love go. It sounds harsh, but it is necessary. If the relationship is actually over for good, let the weight lift off of your shoulders. If you're still hurting after the first two suggestions, chances are you feel that you had done something wrong to drive the other person away. Do not put the fault on yourself. A relationship doesn't work because two people were not a compatible fit for life. What your ex may have despised is an aspect of you that someone else can love. Don't apologize for being you. This is poison to the mind and doesn't have an easy cure. You will be running circles in negativity. So I say again, let your love go. You're keeping yourself in the past if you don't do this. Focus on the future.
This brings us to the last point. Have hope. Sure, one relationship didn't work, but the next one may. What I found is love will find you when you least expect it. Keep an eye out for people you may be interested in, but keep positive and live your life. I'm confident that the right person is out there for you. One day, life will bring you together with another person and it will be an incredible moment. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, so learn from your ex and prepare for meeting the love of your life.
For those in a happy relationship, reinvigorate passion within it. Have a night just to the two of you and put that spark back into the relationship, assuming it was ever lost to begin with. Be thankful for each other and renew any love that may have been lost or taken for granted. Take this as a challenge, and good luck!
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