I'm going to come up with something for you. A checklist of sorts. I'll put together some aspects of a relationship that will hint toward whether or not that relationship could be long lasting, so much to the point of bringing two people together for their lives. That being said, let's dive in.
Accepting the past.
We all have something that we are not proud of. How does your partner react to these things? A person who truly cares for you, and wants to spend plenty of time with you, will not fully accept flaws and issues that lie in your past. The same response lies with you. Do you feel comfortable with your partner's past? No, it isn't flawless, but do you trust your partner? Do you support him/her? These are good leading questions that could indicate how you feel about your partner's past.
A lifetime is a long time.
Many relationships are healthy and lively when two people see each other every once in a while, maybe a couple of times a week or so. How do you react when you're around your partner for a long time? Keep this in mind: If you get aggravated with your partner after spending only a few hours with him/her, imagine what it will be like to wake up next to that person for the rest of your life. If you're dreading this idea, chances are you aren't with the right person.
It's difficult to know if two people are compatible if these two don't know each other well. Make sure you get to understand your partner. Let yourself view other sides of your partner's personality. Experience this person in many settings, including alone time, spending time with the family, partaking in activities in public, and when you two are celebrating. How your partner reacts to certain situations makes you aware of the person you may be spending your life with. Know your partner both emotionally and physically, to some extent, as you'll be around this person a lot!
No relationship is flawless.
It takes two to tango, and one should expect to have issues in any relationship, no matter how well it may be going in the moment. What's more important is how you and your partner find a way to work through such problems. This is a good clue as to whether or not a relationship with a person could work. If your partner seems ready to jump ship at the smallest battle, be very wary. However, if your significant other decides to stay behind you during the most difficult arguments, it's a good sign. That's very telling as to how lasting that relationship can be. Analyze the bad times in the relationship. Are these bad times worth the good times? Do you still love your partner while that person may be arguing with or aggravating you? Spending your life with the person that is "perfect" for you doesn't mean you only look forward to the good times, but you must be ready for the bad times. You should be looking forward to those too, because you get to experience them with your partner.
These are four aspects of a relationship to think about when wondering if someone is perfect for you. However, don't aim to find the perfect person. Aim to create the perfect love. If this is your goal, the perfect person will turn up when the time is right.
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Happy Loving!
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